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Finding My Why
When I started this blog my goal was to help other busy moms like me, who are trying to balance their commitments to their family, their jobs, and to themselves. The last commitment is the one that usually gets pushed aside, despite how essential self-care in allowing us to be our best selves.
However, I wasn’t getting the response that I was hoping for. It wasn’t until I read “Mastering Your Mean Girl” by Melissa Ambrosini (www.melissaambrosini.com) that I figured out why. I wasn’t being true to myself. I was still listening to my mean girl (also known as my negative self-talk), and she was telling me that I wasn’t good enough and who did I think I was trying to tell other woman how to live their lives when I was still trying to figure out mine. My Mean Girl has been my closest friend for a very long time, and it’s time to be done with her. She’s not serving me or helping me achieve my dreams. Melissa offers great advice on how to put her away and ignore her, and also how to discover your true passions and achieve your dreams through inspiring stories, quotes, and activities.
I decided to take a break from blogging and figure out my purpose, why I was so passionate about helping other woman balance their lives and what I had to offer in return for their time. Why was I really blogging? What was I hoping to achieve? How did I want to help people? I had a fuzzy concept, but I needed to write it down and figure out all the details.
So, what is my why? First off, my professional why is that I want to help other busy, working moms be fit and fabulous. But this isn’t just about being physical fit and fabulous. I want to help woman be fit and fabulous mind, body, and soul. I’d like to help grow the light from within that helps you be the very best you that you can be; both for yourself and for your family.
My personal why is very similar to my professional why. I do care deeply about helping other moms, but I know that I also need to help myself and my family. I have all this knowledge, which I can easily provide to other people. However, I struggle to apply it to myself and be the best me that I can be for my family.
I know how hard it is to balance it all and I know how it feels to drop a few things off my plate because I couldn’t balance it all. So many days it feels like I’m walking through a fog and just going through the motions. I understand how hard it is to fight your way through the fog and come through it determined to never give up.
What Drives Me
I have a barrel of issues starting with depression and anxiety, along with a social communication disorder, poor working memory, and no spatial awareness. It’s fun. I struggle terribly in social situations and avoid talking on the phone unless absolutely necessary. I’ve a gained a lot of weight and taken it all off. And I’ve spent many years, thanks to my depression, not caring about much, especially myself.
I have two sons, now ages 11 and 8 that need me; especially my oldest, G. Both of my children have ADHD. But that’s where it stops with my youngest, N. I describe him as a bouncy ball or a Tigger or an energetic puppy. He’s super social and does well in school, when he wants to.
G., on the other hand, also has high-functioning autism, OCD, and anxiety to go along with his ADHD. As an added problem, he’s very picky and highly sensitive to stimulants. We’ve had to stop taking his ADHD medicine numerous times due to weight loss. He’s barely in the 5th percentile for his height. This has made starting middle school extremely rough. He’s young for his age to begin with, he has all his issues, and he hasn’t been on any medication to help him focus in school; although, he has gained weight recently, so we’re about to try a stimulant medication again. We did the genetic testing to find out which medications would work best for him. His psychiatrist suggested one from the list and he’ll start when he goes back to school after Thanksgiving.
Middle school has been extremely rough for him. He doesn’t get along with the other kids, he struggles to focus, he struggles with the pace, and he’s incredibly disorganized. He has a separate backpack for A days and B days that only contains the binders for those classes and separate homework folder for each bag. Every week he does a full locker clean-out after school and attend a homework club. G. also does a daily check in and check out at school with one of the teachers. Despite all this he still forgets and loses things.
I’d like to be able to home-school G., and provide social experiences for him, such as sports (he loves soccer) and social groups. However, with a full-time job working outside the home, I can’t do that currently. So that’s my other why. I want to find full-time work that allows me to set my own schedule and work from home. This will allow me to provide Gabe with the care and support he needs.
My goal as I continue writing is to provide fitness, health, motivation, and lifestyle advice to help busy working moms be fit and fabulous, mind, body, and soul. Occasionally I will also share about my life and how things continue to progress with my children and me.
I hope you’ll continue reading and share your stories with me.